Every women's magazine under the sun has it's own top ten dating tips section. But what frustrates me, is that the same magazine, over the course of a year, will contradict itself! The
January issue will tell you the best way to land a man is to play hard to get, don't return his calls right away, and it's perfectly acceptable to be late, because it's a
woman's prerogative. But by fall, the same magazine will tell you the complete opposite, are men on some sort of
lunar calendar, and depending on the month, will respond to different things? Umm, no! So what's a girl to do? Well here's an idea, flip through the pages, admire the pretty pictures, and give little or no thought to all the
lists. As women, we all know what it takes to land us the
man of our dreams. Here's how I landed my beau!
I Am an On-Time Diva! All of this nonsense about making a man wait, is just that,
nonsense. On our first date, I met my partner outside of his apartment building, and ironically, he was late, about 15 minutes late. This wouldn't have been a major deal except that it was a bitter March evening, and he lived on the ocean, so my hair didn't stand a chance. But he soon learned that I was not the kind of woman to keep waiting, and what he appreciated more, was that I was not the type of woman to keep a man waiting!
I Always Offered to Pay. So many women have a issue with
picking up the cheque and I never understood why. I'm not a fan of double standards, and why should men be constantly picking up the tab? My date took me to a fantastic
Izakaya restaurant (and we'll be celebrating our 4 year anniversary there this March!). The bill was startling, but I figured I should pay to play. Luckily, he would have none of it, and paid. I picked up drinks at the cocktail bar we went to later and it was all a wash. I felt good, he felt good, and everyone was happy.
I was Never Afraid to Be Available. I never understood why
women play games like not answering the phone before a certain number of rings, or making the guy leave a message, and calling him back days later in order to
appear busy. C'mon! Life is too short to be playing games, especially with someone's heart. If my boyfriend called me, I answered. Very simple. If I was unavailable to spend time with him, I told him. No mind games.
I Never Assumed Anything. This should really be a golden rule for everyone. Dating is a time to get to know the other person, and the time should be spent doing
just that. Ask questions, explore who they are, understand where they're coming from. I am a naturally inquisitive person and I wanted to know absolutely everything about my potential new mate. My boyfriend took a little longer to ask the right questions, but he got there eventually!
Every women's magazine under the sun has it's own top ten dating tips section. But what frustrates me, is that the same magazine, over the course of a year, will contradict itself! The January issue will tell you the best way to land a man is to play hard to get, don't return his calls right away, and it's perfectly acceptable to be late, because it's a woman's prerogative. But by fall, the same magazine will tell you the complete opposite, are men on some sort of lunar calendar, and depending on the month, will respond to different things? Umm, no! So what's a girl to do? Well here's an idea, flip through the pages, admire the pretty pictures, and give little or no thought to all the lists. As women, we all know what it takes to land us the man of our dreams. Here's how I landed my beau! 
I was Never Afraid to Be Available. I never understood why women play games like not answering the phone before a certain number of rings, or making the guy leave a message, and calling him back days later in order to appear busy. C'mon! Life is too short to be playing games, especially with someone's heart. If my boyfriend called me, I answered. Very simple. If I was unavailable to spend time with him, I told him. No mind games.
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