Why Should Men Do all the Wooing?

I am fortunate enough to be with a lovely man. He's tall, dark and handsome, intelligent, and most importantly, he adores me. We've been together coming up on four years, and we've experienced some of the most amazing things together, but like every other relationship, every now and then, life hits the doldrums. There seems to be this misconception out there in society that men are wholeheartedly responsible for women's happiness. Being the fiercely independent, strong feminist that I am, though I love to hold men to task wherever possible, after spending the last decade in two very serious relationships, it's become very obvious, that men are not inherently romantic, and sometimes, we need to take the reins.

This year, I decided that I would be taking over the anniversary plans this year. In all his good intentions, my partner is usually scrambling at the last minute to put something together, and though it's usually great, it's not exactly well-thought out, and watching him stress over his procrastination is pure torture! So, to save myself the frustration of watching him scramble and to let him off the hook, I've decided to steal him away for the weekend at a beautiful B&B in a beautiful little city. But you don't have whisk your better half away for an expensive weekend to impress, just use a little imagination, watch the romance ignite!

Turn Dinner into All Night Dining! Re-create a fabulous meal that you've shared somewhere. My boyfriend and I both adore Bali, and some of the most intimate dinners we've shared as a couple were overlooking Uluwatu Beach. So every so often, I bring out our best dishware, and spend the afternoon making a feast fit for a Balinese King! I throw our pictures up on the flat screen, light some tea lights and we laugh the night away!

Dance..just because! Whether you're recreating the Thriller video in the middle of your kitchen, or, breakin' out some sultry latin moves in the backyard, music is the language of love. My boyfriend and I took salsa together back in the day, and every now and then, we throw on a little Buena Vista Social Club and away we go.

Map Out Make-Out Hot Spots! Grab your honey's arm, and take him on an intimate tour of your neighbourhood! Steal a passionate kiss or two in every nook and cranny around town. Make it into a game, and get his engines revving. Just be prepared for the tour to end a little early, because I guarantee he'll be snagging you to make a dash back to the house.


Sneak Saucy Love Notes into his Lunch. This is one of my favourites and works every time! Remind him about a passionate night you spent together, and how you'd like to re-create in the very near future! There's no way he can have a bad day after reading that, plus, he'll walk through the door with a little more pep in his step!

A relationship is a two way street, and women need to stop trying to live their lives like they're in the midst of a Jane Austen novel. You can't sit back and expect men to do all the romancing! If you do, you'll be waiting until the end of time. So let's step it up and show the men how it's done!